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Name: Dwayne IRW Mandy
Name: Connie IRW Ben
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Meeting Topic-Reflection for 12/13/13
Tonight’s Topic: Humor ~ Harming or Healing?
The RCA Promises state that "We will learn how to play and have fun together."
Humor can be a wonderful healing tool. Many times humor can be shared through our ESH in our meetings. We have been in many F2F and Step Study meetings, in which humor has been shared, and brings healing to our collective shame and pain. Humor can be a way to remind us not to take ourselves too seriously, allowing ourselves and our coupleships to be perfectly imperfect.
Finding the humor in our individual and coupleship experiences can help with forgiving ourselves, our partners, and others, while also helping us to 'lighten up' our very serious load :)When we use humor as a means of playfulness and laughter, we nurture our coupleships. When we begin to heal through our recovery, we might find ourselves actually able to see a humorous side to some of our past, painful experiences (We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it). Humor as healing can also ground us in the present.
But, equally important, humor can also be harmful. Humor—when used to degrade, manipulate, or to express emotions that don't have a healthy 'voice'— can become toxic and hurtful. This is a safety issue for most of us, but not always one that we are aware of.
In what ways do you find humor nurtures your coupleship?
What boundaries do you set for yourself in your coupleship around ‘harmful humor’? Do you recognize it when it shows up? Have you used ‘harmful humor’ yourself?