|A Vision for Two|
THE PROMISES OF RCA
If we are honest about our commitment and painstaking about working the Twelve Steps together, we will quickly be amazed at how soon our love returns. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will learn how to play and have fun together. As we experience mutual forgiveness we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. Trust in each other will return. We will comprehend the word serenity, and we will know peace
No matter how close to brokenness we have come, we will see how our experiences can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness, shame, and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our partners, families, and others. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know hot to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will be better parents, workers, helpers, and friends. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us -- sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.
For those of you who are new to our fellowship, there are no problems that you have experienced that are not common to many of us.
Just as our love for our partners has been imperfect, we may not always be adequately able to express to you the deep love and acceptance we feel for you. Keep coming back, the process of loving and communication grows in us and with each other one day at a time.
A Vision for Two
For many couples, RCA is the "Missing Link" in their personal and couple recoveries. Through working our program together, we have found that:
1. We no longer need to hide or medicate our feelings through addictive or compulsive behavior.
2. We can express our feelings.
3. We ask for what we need, both individually and a couple.
4. Being together brings us joy and happiness.
5. Being sexual enhances our relationship and increases our opportunity for further intimacies.
6. We learn to express our true feelings about larger issues.
7. We learn to resolve conflict.
8. We learn to deal with conflict and to fight fairly.
9. We learn to accept our individual responsibility.
10. We recognize and break the patterns of dysfunction from our families-of-origin.
11. We accept our limitations as parents.
12. We are proud of ourselves as a couple.